We've been conditioned to seek approval from a young age. First, our parents, then teachers, friends, and eventually society. The need for approval is a fundamental aspect of our human psychology, affecting the way we navigate decisions, self-worth, and even our identity. But why do we need approval? Is this need for approval getting in the way of our ability to accept ourselves?
We Need Approval For At Least 2 Reasons
1. Evolutionary Safety Need
Humans are social animals. Early tribes relied on acceptance in order to survive. To be rejected from a tribe meant isolation, and being isolated from cooperatively secured food, protection, and mates became nearly impossible. This ancient wiring is still with us, urging us to seek approval in an effort to feel safe and valued.