The Risks of Relying on External Validation
While seeking external validation isn't inherently wrong, becoming too reliant on it can result in:
Low Self-Esteem - When your value lies in the opinions of others, your confidence can feel shaky at best.
People-Pleasing - Attempting to meet expectations at all times can quickly lead to burnout.
The Fear of Failure - This can lead to a fear of trying new things or taking risks for fear of disappointing others or receiving disapproval.
Inauthenticity - Hiding your genuine perspective and aligning with group expectations can lead to inner turmoil.
How to Move from Validation from Others to Validation from the Self
Awareness and consistency can help you move away from always needing to seek approval from others. Here are some strategies to begin the process:
1. Notice Your Triggers
Be aware of when you seek validation from others. Do you post on social media solely for likes? Do you alter opinions and beliefs in order to fit in with others? The first step into shifting away from this habits is to notice when you are participating in them.